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Hello Everyone,
Grand parenting is more than a role; it is a responsibility. Children
benefit from the emotional support, guidance, and love that is available in
an extended family. You can fulfill a critical role in the lives of your
grandchildren.
"A grandmother is a person with too much wisdom to let that stop her from
making a fool of herself over her grandchildren." _____Phil Moss
- Offer your
children any parenting suggestions they request, but don't force unwanted
advice on them. Let them make their own mistakes. Share your ideas
tentatively so as not to make them feel inadequate as parents.
- Adopt a hands-on approach with your grandchildren; bond with them early in
their lives. Take your grandchildren places without their parents on
occasion. Create your own relationship with them.
- Leave disciplining to parents, and support them in it.
- Be a teacher, confidant, and supporter.
- If you live far away, send your grandchildren audio and videotapes with
special messages from you. Write letters often.
- Allow each child to be an individual. Don't expect children to mirror you,
their parents, or each other.
- Never let grandchildren hear you compare one to the other. Don't give one
a nickname that diminishes the others. Example: Don't call one your "special
guy." Be prepared for jealousy from older grandchildren when you lavish
attention on the latest arrival.
- Don't take sides in family squabbles, but always be available to listen to
hurts.
- Never criticize your children in front of their children.
- If you live with your children, respect their privacy, don't complain
about the food or your living conditions, help with household chores, handle
your own finances, and provide the family with treats now and then.
Courtesy: Jinni Baba |
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Jinni Baba